So yesterday I started out a little “ranty” about the expectation that being a size zero has something to do with your being beautiful or valuable or worthy. Honestly, and I’ll say it until I’m blue in the face, the size that’s printed on the inside of your clothes has literally no bearing on the person that you are. Literally.
It has no impact on whether you’re a good person or more of a douche bag. It doesn’t determine whether you get places on time or leave crappy tips when you go out to eat or whether or not you pick up after your dog when you’re walking in the neighborhood. It doesn’t have anything to do with your saying ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ or trying to teach your children the same things. Thankfully, it also doesn’t determine how well behaved your children are, although I may be more motivated to exercise if a certain number size guaranteed my kid would, for the love of God, stop picking on the dog, already, and share with his sister!
I’ve seen articles on size discrepancies before. I’m actually very excited to do one of my own for you, but (obviously) it’ll have to wait until post baby and then maybe even a few months after that, but I digress. The point here is that we are conditioned to think that one size is better than another, when, in reality, no number is better than any other number. They are simply numbers that determine measurements that loosely depict the general amount of space that we take up, as humans.
You shouldn’t be blaming your pants for causing you to have a bad day. Like, your day was perfectly fine until you had to buy new pants and they were two sizes bigger than what you thought they should be. Unless the size of your pants is advertised in giant numbers on the back pockets (and who would do that?? don’t buy those pants!), no one will ever know what size you are if you don’t tell them. Additionally, pants (and sizes) don’t actually talk. So that voice you hear that’s telling you how terrible you are. That’s actually your voice. That’s your voice that you need to remind that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
On top of all that, other people may notice when you’re wearing something that fits your body and looks nice. On the other hand, people will DEFINITELY notice if you’re wearing something that’s two sizes too small or two sizes too big. And this still isn’t about other people. At the end of the day, what other people think about your body, especially, is none of your business, but I know that it does nothing for our own self esteem when we can feel that people are seeing us in a less than positive light, even if it’s just physical.
So how about for this week, or at the very least, for the rest of today, let’s pay a little more attention to how we are talking to ourselves and how we are determining our worth. Because I promise you, our pants, or other inanimate objects or arbitrary numbers, have absolutely nothing to do with it. You are amazing. Just as you are!